Thursday, December 29, 2016

What to do when you are at the end of a life cycle

This whole year for me has been about wrapping things up in preparation for a new cycle of my life to begin. Every 8 years of my life a new cycle had begun so when I turned 24 in January, I expected this to be the first year of a new cycle, but it surprised me and instead it was about concluding everything that I experienced in the last 8 years and setting intentions for the next 8 years.

Everyone has cycles or phases of their life - things come and go, they change, and sometimes it's a hard thing to deal with so here are my tips for coping with it and hopefully making the transition as smooth as possible.

1. Clean up

I literally mean do a spring clean (or whatever month you are in). Prepare to let go of things that no longer serve you or make you happy and have just been cluttering up your house/apartment. Ditch old electronics, books you will never read again or have no attachment to, old paperwork that is now irrelevant (feel free to scan it if you still need the info but don't want the paper trail), clothes you haven’t work in a year, and broken or ruined items you’ve held onto for sentimental value that mean nothing now. You don’t have to get rid of everything, just things that are weighing you down or taking up room. By cleaning up you are clearing space for new things to enter your life. You will have less physical and metaphorical baggage which will make you feel lighter and give your mind some breathing room.

2. Realise it’s happening and accept it

Over the last few months to a year you may have noticed that things have slowed down, and that you may have lost or gained relationships, jobs, or experienced loss/gain in other areas of your life. It may take a long time to realise that you are at the end of a cycle. The hardest stage of any life cycle is acceptance. As a species we are quite nostalgic and no matter how bad things may have been in the past, there is always a sense of nostalgia for the way things used to be. It is hard when you realise that things have been slowly changing for a long time. 

3. Prepare to leap

Get yourself in the bracing position, and be prepared to leap into your new life. It may be a lot of little leaps as each aspect of your life slowly changes, or it may be the huge leap that you have been anticipating. Either way, at the end of the next cycle you will be in a completely different place in your life. 

The next 8 years could be the ones where my dreams come true and I reach the goals I’ve been planning on accomplishing ever since I was a little girl. I used to have my late twenties all planned out - married by 26, pregnant by 27, pregnant with my second by 30. Who knows, that could all still happen in the time frame I set years ago, but I’m letting go of all that obsessive planning and just allowing life to flow. I’ve had such a tight grip on the vision I have for my future that I’ve been hindering progression towards it. By becoming an observer of my future instead of a planner, I will be able to make grander strides towards it. The next year is about getting everything in place so that when I have a family I am as capable and ready as possible. 

Please let me know what cycle of your life you are in - I would genuinely love to know. ♥


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