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Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Labels.

For the past year or so the main topic on my mind has been myself. I've been all about "finding myself" and figuring out who I am, where I stand, my place in the world. I've taken hundreds of personality quizzes, I've read all about psychology, astrology, life paths and any other form of classification I can get my hands on. But the more I read and learn, the more questions I have.

There's no doubt in my mind that I know who I am at this point in my life and am very sure of myself, but with each passing year I change so much. I evolve every day even though it feels like nothing ever changes.


There comes a point where you want to find your place; to belong somewhere. You want to define yourself. The problem is, we are all far too complex to ever fit into one category or definition. After all the searching I've found that no one label or definition will ever summarise me. Am I a daughter, a sister, a friend, an Aquarius, an INFP, a feminist, a survivor? I am all of those things but none of them sum up who I am. A couple of years from now hopefully girlfriend, wife or mother will be added to the list but for now, I need to be okay with being label-less.

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  1. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. For a while now I have been trying to find out who the real me is, it got to the point where I was such a stranger to myself that it ruined a relationship - and in the process a good friendship/working relationship. Now I am just focusing on trying to be happy and healthy. I hope you can find some sort of peace in being label-less, it is so hard in a society that labels everyone and everything, life would be so much easier if we didn't have labels. :)

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    1. Sorry to hear it ruined things.. gotta be honest though, I'm really happy you can relate! I'm with you - being happy and healthy has to be the focus. I think if we concentrate a bit more on those things maybe we'll find ourselves along the way. :)

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    2. Oh I definitely agree it helps to know that others are going through the same thing, I wish I could be one of those people who are just so sure of themselves they know exactly who they are. No matter how hard the journey seems to be though, I think there is something exciting about getting to know yourself, and trying to be Happy and Healthy. I'm hoping to find time to make a blog post soon about the projects and things I have been trying to find myself/happiness.

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  2. I've never been one for labels, to be honest. You are who you are, and that's rarely a static thing. Unfortunately the world we live in seems to love labelling everything. I'm still trying to find where I fit in all that.

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    1. It's difficult because in some ways I feel exactly like the kid I was at 5 years old on my first day of kindergarten but in other ways I'm this totally different person who is living a life she doesn't belong in. Oh well, I think I'll still be trying to figure myself out at 80 years old.

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  3. Dianna has it right here. I think, quite frankly, that 'labels are for soup cans'. I don't mean to sound brash by that, but labels should be the least of our worries. By putting oneself into categories and labels, it can stop you from being 100% yourself. It creates unnecessary expectations and criteria. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I hope you don't find yourself too fussed over this sort of thing, since you're worth much more than a couple of labels. x

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    1. Everything is a social construction anyway and I don't think anyone ever fits in.

      Thanks for the words hun. ♥

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  4. finding yourself takes time & it needs to be natural you know. loving this picture of you, sorta reflects this post perfectly

    Katrina Sophia Blog

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    1. Thanks Katrina :)
      I think it's going to be my lifelong journey.

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  5. I hear you lovely, it's hard to know who you are when everything is constantly changing and that's okay! It's so good that you are always growing and that you take time to reflect on yourself :) x

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    1. Thanks for the lovely words Meg ♥

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