Friday, November 08, 2013

So Erin, are you for gay marriage?

I got asked this question by a coworker at lunch yesterday and it came out of nowhere. I can't remember what we were talking about before but this question came up and I had to answer. I went on a little rant and said something along the lines of:

"Of course! What if my brother's gay and he wants to get married but can't because he likes someone of the same gender? And what if I couldn't get married because I happened to fall in love with a girl even though all I've wanted my whole life was to get married and have kids? That would be denying me something I've dreamed of and hoped for my whole life - it wouldn't be fair." 

I wanted to add that the whole logic behind why boys should like girls and girls should like boys it completely ridiculous as well but I thought I'd better stop there. Then she replied "I don't have anything against gay marriage but I don't think they should have children. Kids of gay parents get bullied."

Thoughts were racing through my head. Who are you to have anything against gay marriage? Also who are you to say them in that way, as if they're a totally different species? Why should what you think impact someone else? Why should you take away a right from someone that you've never met? There are so many children out there who are in need of homes and loving families and I think if there are two loving parents - or even one - sexual preference has no bearing on their ability to love and care for a child.

Do the definitions of love and parent specify gender? No they do not.

(noun): 1. a strong feeling of affection for someone / 2. a great interest and pleasure in something.
(verb): 1. feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone).

(noun): 1. a person's father or mother.
(verb): 1. be or act as a mother or father to (someone).

The thing that most knocked me off my feet was that she's not religious so she really has no excuse to be so judgemental and narrow minded. It blows my mind that so many people think they have a right to dictate how the world works as well as the lives of people they've never met. You consume entertainment created by gay people every day but you don't "believe" they should be allowed the right every child is born with which is to be able to get married and have children because they fell in love with someone of the same gender? It honestly makes me so furious.

I feel like we have to educate and change narrow minds one at a time to make this world a better place. Like Harry Styles said on twitter last week: "All social change comes from the passion of individuals." I refuse to conform to a society that is so judgemental or even tolerate bigotry so I'm going to do everything I can to change people's perspectives on the world. One small mind at a time.

With lots of (equal) love,



    It blows my mind too. And topics like this have become extremely personal for me seeing as I'm coming to terms with my own sexuality. And just.... wow. And as for religion as an "excuse" - that kind of irks me because if your religion is against gay marriage, then fine, okay, don't marry someone of the same gender. What pisses me off is that they use religion to justify why nobody should be allowed to marry someone of the same sex. And well, shit. Because marriage doesn't mean the same to everyone, you know? And some people decide to use their understanding of marriage to dictate everyone else's lives. It pisses me off beyond belief. Especially because some close friends of mine seem to think like this.

    Oh and also a large part of the 1D fandom pisses me off with how they say "Louis and Harry aren't gay, don't say mean things" as if being gay is a bad thing.... UGH.

    FEELINGS ALL OVER THE PLACE. I may need to make my own post on this topic.

    1. And as for religion as an "excuse" - that kind of irks me because if your religion is against gay marriage, then fine, okay, don't marry someone of the same gender.
      EXACTLY!!! Why do people think their own personal beliefs that come from a book written over many years by people with their own version of events should dictate the way everyone has to live?

      I think the thing that hurts most is when you get to talking about these things with people you know and are close to and you find out that they think that way... it's just so... I can't think of the word. It's just wrong, disappointing and it makes you have a different view on people that you know aren't bad people, but are misinformed and have to be frank, the wrong view on the whole world.

      Well the 1D fandom is full of naive 14-17 year olds who don't really know any better so it's better to just not listen to them and talk to the older fans (who can be just as insane haha).

      Would love to see you do a post on this :)

  2. ^^^^ that was me. Wrong account, oops!

  3. I think you deserve a medal for writing this post. People really need a reality check, their opinions are irrelevant when it comes to love. Like you said, love is love and there should never be denial when gender comes into play. I'm glad though, that people are more accepting towards the LGBT community. Your coworker is probably a minority!
    Also I'm hoping gay marriage is passed as a law. If it isn't in a few years, I don't know what I'd do. Seriously though Erin, you preach it!

    1. Some people really do frustrate and infuriate me - I just can't understand their point of view. Keep in mind that the people in my life that have this view also make racist comments. It disgusts me. Unfortunately I don't think the co-worker is in the minority :(

      I really hope it is soon - we've got Canberra, surely it's just a matter of time before it's legal in the whole country.

      Thanks for the support Rachel! <3


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